Friday, October 10, 2008

RAK Challenge Kicks Off!

I recently had the opportunity to participate in a discussion regarding the topic of “Saving the world”. This topic was centered around the Project 10 to the 100 effort being funded by Google in honor of the search engine’s tenth anniversary.

Obviously, saving the world is a tall order, and each person’s definition of what it means to save the world is quite different from one person to the next. Knowing this, the conversation focused more on how we could use our skills, talents, resources and relationships to do our part on a smaller scale through the idea of “paying it forward.”

Though a few specific ideas were discussed - including the opportunity to help one of our own fulfill a personal desire to make a difference in the lives of women and children who are struggling to escape the bonds of an abusive home - we also considered ways in which we could make “pay it forward” a part of our daily lives. We questioned how we could power a group effort through individual participation.

What we decided was that, in the end, how we choose to pay it forward is entirely up to us on an individual basis. We can choose to make a difference through small, random acts of kindness We can choose to reach out, beyond the bounds of our comfort zones, to help those less fortunate than ourselves. We can join together with our friends, family and co-workers to tackle a larger issue (such as domestic violence, as mentioned above).

We can choose to do anything. The key is, however, that we choose to do something. And, to start the ball rolling, I would like to offer up the following challenge…

Over the course of the next 30 days, each person who accepts the Random Acts of Kindness Challenge will commit to performing one (1) random act of kindness (RAK) each and every day.

The rules are simple, and are entirely based on the following definition of what constitutes a Random Act of Kindness:

A RAK is a selfless act that is intended to have a positive impact on the life of the recipient. The act can be spontaneous, or planned in advance, and should be performed solely for the benefit of the recipient. (Acts of kindness performed for the benefit of the person performing the act really shouldn’t be classified as RAK’s.)

The Rules
(Feel free to submit your own if you see that I've missed something here.)
  • There is no limit to how big or small a RAK can be
  • There is no financial requirement
  • While the challenge calls for 1 RAK per day, this is by no means a limit. The more RAK’s, the better!
  • There are no losers in this challenge! Everyone who performs even a single RAK benefits from participating in this challenge.
Share Your Stories

As we move through the 30 days of this challenge, I think it would be uplifting and encouraging if we were to share our stories. I would love to hear just how we are making a difference in the lives of those we touch. For this reason, I have created this public blog for each of us to post our experiences. (I realize that some people may wish to keep their acts confidential. For this reason, I have left the blog open to receive “anonymous” comments.)

To share your stories, use the comment feature of this blog. Simply click on the link in the previous sentence, or scroll to the bottom of this post and click the "comments" link. (Again, comments are open to anonymous users.)

A Few RAK Examples
  • Hold the elevator rather than repeatedly pressing the “close” button
  • Help clean up a mess that you did not make
  • Help a neighbor with yard work
  • Donate food / clothing / time / blood
  • Volunteer (Anywhere!)
  • Say a kind word (or smile) to someone in need of an emotional lift
  • Pick up the tab for another patron at a neighborhood restaurant
  • Send a greeting card “just because”
Everyone is Encouraged to Commit to the Challenge!

Though this challenge was conceived and initiated for a group that I am a part of, I see absolutely no reason to limit participation to members of that group. In fact, I believe that the greater the participation in this challenge, the better.... for Everyone!

Being the optimistic person that I am, I'm hoping we can get hundreds (thousands?) of people to accept this challenge. And, to help us somehow track the number of participants, I'm asking that you let me know if you choose to accept and commit to this challenge. You can do this in one of two ways. First, you can simply leave an (anonymous?) comment on this blog post. Second, you can follow this blog through the Follow this blog link on this page.

Finally, please share this challenge with anyone and everyone!

9 comments:

Dr. Christi Barb said...

Great idea and motivation. I'm all for it!

Dr. Christi Barb said...

This came along at the right time for me because I need to get out of my busy noisy head and think about life and people outside of it. I'm all consumed by thoughts of work and business and money (and lack thereof) and lately I've had a lot of bad experiences with people in general in Wichita.

I had been meaning to volunteer at the food bank or Red Cross that are both at the end of my street. Wednesday I went to the food bank and they put me to work right away. I can just come and go whenever I want and fill plastic bags with items that will go to the backpack program (they send kids who need it home with food for the weekend). After the office worker guy showed me what to do and left me to it, this woman comes in and says she'll work with me for a while, then the next thing out of her mouth is "What they get ya for?"

The office guy had told me that there were a lot of court-mandated workers there and if any of them made me unconfortable that I could just leave or come let the office know. This woman was grumpy and nasty and controlling and bossy. "Here's how you fold the bag. Don't do it like Larry said, he doesn't know anything. I've been here longer than him." blah blah blah. She was really pissing me off and bumming me out so I didn't stay long because it was such a bad experience. Later, I was annoyed at how compliant I had been to such a bitch.

It really bothered me the rest of the day and night. I kept thinking of what I coulda/shoulda/woulda said differently. I was so bummed out that my life is filled with these ugly, nasty, rude, mean characters lately when I'm just trying to walk the dogs, ride my bike, or volunteer. Why? Are they there for a reason in the big cosmic sense of a lesson I'm supposed to learn? I don't know. It has made me think a lot about myself and my life.

I definitely didn't want to go back on Thursday but at the same time I couldn't not go because that would seem like defeat. So I forced myself to go back but I took my iPod and planned on just tuning out that woman and whatever other nasty person would be there. As soon as I walked in, old crusty was there with another woman unloading boxes. I said HI and walked on into the room with the backpack stuff.

After a while, the other woman, the one who wasn't there yesterday, came to work with me. I was scared to start any kind of conversation because of yesterday's encounter with old crusty and the whole "What they'd get ya for?" thing. Soon we were running out of items and needed to ask a guy around the corner where they were. That started conversation between us and yadda yadda yadda...the new woman is from Canada and doing the work for extra credit for her psychology class and we had a great convo that made the next hour fly by (and I hadn't even intended on staying that long). Then there were three permanent workers helping restock palats of food bins and it was lighthearted and really enjoyable. This whole time, old crusty was outside the room unloading boxes of stuff, like she was told to do. Every once in a while she would yell and complain about needing more empty boxes and one of the guys would yell back that they were stacked behind her (and then roll their eyes at us).

Overall, I was so glad that I went back and gave it another chance. I still don't look forward to being alone with old crusty but I think I could handle it better next time.

Today, I have an apppointment with the Red Cross for volunteer work. By looking at their brochure, I found out there's plenty of things to do besides work with blood. There's also a required background check so I think volunteer positions will require more responsibility. I'll find out soon.

Lindi Ben said...

Cool, BJ! Christi told me about your blog before I read it. I'll be joining the challenge after I fight this cold. I'm not even getting out of the house much until I shake this thing. Great idea.

Dr. Christi Barb said...

Can I count not losing my temper as a kind act? Or is that just want normal people do? Maybe I should start a "Randon Acts of Restraint" challenge.

Lindi Ben said...

I've been thinking what Christi said - can I count restraining from myself from yelling at someone or flipping them off - usually in the car - as an act of kindess? Grrr...traffic. On the flipside, letting a car in front of you is easy to do since there's always plenty of traffic around!

Dr. Christi Barb said...

Since I won't be joyriding around on public transportation in Wichita, Lindi, you'll have to do mine for me in public transportation friendly Boston.

I will be giving my classes a kind quiz today, only 10 questions that should be easy for them. :-)

Michael C said...

Hi... I found this from the profile for "bcj19" (Google Groups). Wonderful concept! I'm a little late coming to the party, as it were, but now I'm all over it!

Dr. Christi Barb said...

No blood, no way. I don't think anyone wants mine anyway.

Lindi Ben said...

Ooo, I like the leaving money in the vending machine idea. How happy that would make somebody. Next time I use one, I'll do that. Good tip, BJ!